Act Like A Lady

Dec 20, 2012

Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think about Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment

Steve Harvey, known for his LOUD suits and hilarious nature penned "Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man", subsequently made into a movie awhile back with a great cast if I do say so myself. Hilarious, down to earth, and engaging, the movie made me run out months later and borrow a copy from my local library - which is my JAM, and super budget friendly. Why buy a book when you could buy wine shoes?  Genius I know - you're welcome :)  Anyhow, the book - detailing relationships is by all accounts an easy read, outlined by major points about love and men, giving the reader a deeper understanding of how men think, what makes them tick,  and why they cheat.

Returning to the dating world last year was daunting - I'd forgotten how to, and more importantly was intimated by the sheer thought. Dating is not picnic - and being out of that world for so long had me imagining visions of myself in a convent with a vodka bottle. 

My takeaways from this book were that it applies to EVERYONE - regardless if you are in a relationship, looking for one, reeling form heartbreak and searching for answers to make peace. 

------- Spoiler Alert -------


  • Men are defined by three things (their mindset):

    1. Who he is
    2. What he does
    3. How much money he makes

  • How to know when he loves you:

    1. He professes his love
    2. He provides for you (emotional, etc)
    3. He protects you
  • Three things men need:
    1. Support and Encouragement
    2. Love
    3. "Cookie" 
  • "We need to talk" petrifies men (because they assume they did something wrong) and sends them into fix it mode (which is part of "provide").

  • "A man ALWAYS wants something". Period.

  • "Boys shack, men build homes" - are you a sport fish or a keeper?

  • The 90 day rule

  • Five questions to ask yourself (then him):
    1. What are your short term goals?
    2. What are your short term goals?
    3. Views on relationships - family, children, parents, God
    4. What you think of me?
    5. How do feel about me?

Although it wasn't a "page turner", it held my attention, gave me poignant, real life situations to ponder, and forcing me to do a spot check on just what I'm willing to do in/for a relationship, my morals, deal breakers, and requirements.

Read any good books lately? Ever read a relationship book?


  1. I have seen previews for the film but didn't see it. Like the summary.
    My favorite book this time of year is The Stupidest Angel, by Christopher Moore, it only appears on the shelves at Christmas and it is the most twisted crazy fun holiday book ever!

  2. I love this movie! I'm a big Kevin Hart fan.

    1. I laughed so hard my sides hurt - he's HILARIOUS!


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